An interesting question thrown at me today got me thinking. I being the only person at the table who was not in a relationship, was thought to be the ideal person to answer. The question was whether I would prefer to be in a relationship or just a friend with benefits. Now for the uninitiated like me, a friend with benefits is just like any other friend but with the benefits of a girlfriend or boyfriend (whichever applicable to your personal tastes and preferences) with no strings attached in the sense of commitment or the likes. I have to admit, the question did catch me off guard, but when I think of it, the answer surely is that I would prefer to be in a relationship rather than to have a friend with benefits. My reasoning goes like this, for me as an individual, though being rather detached, I would always want to have a person who I can rely on and also be relied upon at the same time. A lot of things happen in our lives every day and to have something stable and steady really makes a lot of difference. For me, its not the physical aspect of a relationship, but the emotional aspect that matters more. To know, that when your down and out, and when you need something more than what a normal friend can give you, but its not physical what you need, its here when being in a relationship is different. There are separate jurisdictions where friends operate and with someone who shares more than that, the playing field is different, completely different. At the same time, im not against friends being in a relationship, it makes a lot more sense then because you are with someone who knows you as a friend first. So there is comfort and understanding. And when you share something deeper with someone who is already a friend, things are bound to fall in place easier coz of the higher amounts of the already established understanding of one another.
Another interesting observation is that I was asked this question by people who are already in relationships. And as far I know, they are not particularly unhappy there either. So this only fortifies my point to say that, what a relationship can give you, in this case nothing else can. The relationship needs to be solid and long lasting undoubtedly.
We all are looking for the right person in our lives, they might be right in front of us and we never know. Feel what the other person feels for you before you let yourself into the relationship or before you say no to that person. We all need just one person to change our lives. All we need is a hand to hold and a pair of eyes to look into to see that they believe you when you don’t believe in yourself. To feel cared for when you know the world is looking down at you. To know that someone will listen to every little word of yours and say that itll be ok, to know that you mean the world to someone and to feel that you are loved.
There is nothing else to this life, all the pain and anguish will just disappear when you find that hand to hold, those eyes to believe in and that person to embrace.
well till next time,
adios, ciao, goodbye and the works
